10 Powerful Reasons To Start A Mass Dating Campaign
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We all know people who are burned out on dating. Perhaps
you are one of them. Perhaps you have thrown yourself into
the dating world more than once, looking for that Mr. or Ms.
Right, only to come up empty handed and disappointed.

And so, the heck with dating, you say. If Mr. or Ms. Right is
going to find me, he or she will have to find me in my life. And
you are right. Dating, as it exists in our culture, be it Internet
dating, personals, dating services, etc. rarely facilitates meeting
Mr. or Ms. Right. And if it doesn't give you what you want, why
bother, right?

Hold on to your seat, because I am about to tell you why you
should run, not walk, to your nearest mass dating opportunity
if you are ever to me meet Mr. or Ms. Right.

Let's have one of my clients tell you what she has learned from
mass dating: " I have learned "how to read people." My intuition
has really gotten much sharper from mass dating!!! This is
another benefit from mass mating......I can learn quickly whether
or not someone is good for me......eliminating dating people for
extended periods of time and then dealing with a break up!!" -J
Let's start with saying that you will not be looking for Mr. or Ms.
Right while dating. And yet, you will be doing some other
extremely valuable things.

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10 powerful reasons you should start a mass dating campaign,
without the goal of finding Mr. or Ms. Right
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1. See who you attract

One of the main reasons to do a lot of dating is to see who you
attract. This is a great test of how close you are to meeting Mr.
or Ms. Right. The people who will pick you out on a dating
website or from an ad will remarkably resemble the types of
people you will attract in a real life situation.

If you find you are attracting people who remind you of your
past relationships or who are not a good match, take it as an
opportunity to do some soul searching. Look into what in you
is attracting incompatible mates.

2. See who you are attracted to

To engage in a lot of dating is a great way to figure out who
you are attracted to. As you probably know, who you are
attracted to initially is not necessarily someone who can
build a good relationship with you. Mass dating allows you
to discover patterns in your attraction, to see real live
examples of your tendencies in relationships.

Are you drawn to people who are unavailable, or are you
drawn to people who deeply want a relationship? If it is the
former, delve deeply into what attracts you to people who
are not available. In this exploration, you will find the key to
attracting the kind of mate you crave.

3. Learn about yourself

Mass dating is a great arena to learn about yourself. There
is no greater power than knowledge. Armed with knowledge,
you can choose to change behavior that does not serve you
or makes you feel comfortable.

Learn how you behave when you first meet someone. Learn
how you behave on a date. Learn how much or how little you
reveal about yourself. Learn whether you are more interesting
or interested in the other person. Learn what happens when
you are attracted to someone. Then, transform what you don't
like and what does not serve you.

4. Get comfortable

Not everyone is comfortable with dating. In fact, most people
are not comfortable, especially when they feel attracted to
the person they are with. Mass dating is a great way to learn
to get comfortable, which is a pretty important thing.

If you can be comfortable on a date, you can be keenly in
touch with your feelings and can detect who you are on a date
with. When calm, you can distinguish a person who wants a
relationship from a person who will engage quickly and will
burn out quickly.

5. Practice setting boundaries

Are you comfortable with gently setting boundaries? Are you
comfortable saying yes or no to something, and feeling the
conversation and the relationship can continue unharmed?
Dating many people, many times, can train you to set
boundaries in a firm yet gentle way.

Why are boundaries important? Boundaries show self-respect.
Boundaries give you the safety to venture into a relationship
and know you will take care of you no matter what. Date a lot,
and practice setting boundaries without hurting or shocking
people.

6. Disprove your beliefs

Here is a great way to use mass dating. Disprove what ever
you believe about the opposite sex. Decide to attract, meet
and date people who are opposite or different from what you
believe most of the opposite sex to be.

So, if you believe most men cannot communicate deeply,
decide to meet many men who yearn for deep, soulful
conversations. And, if you believe most women have become
hard and cutting, decide to meet many women who are
gentle and loving.

If you do not meet people who disprove your beliefs, you are
probably attached to the world being exactly how you think
it is. Perhaps, it is time to consider some radical actions to
break up your belief systems.

7. Get a sense of abundance of possibilities

Many singles, busy in their professional lives and with their
friends and families, feel a deep sense of scarcity regarding
meeting a compatible mate. Mass dating is great for this sort
of thing.

When you get out there with the purpose of dating on a wide
scale, you start to see many other singles, available and
interested in a relationship. Over time, if you continue to date,
rust again that you will meet your Mr. or Ms. Right.

8. Feel desirable

It's not hard to feel unwanted and undesirable when you
are not spending much time with the opposite sex. And,
feeling unwanted and undesirable dims your light, makes
you less attractive, lowers your self-esteem, and perhaps
even makes you want to hide. Not a great thing if you are ever
to attract Mr. or Ms. Right.

If you get out there enough, you will attract many, many
people who will be interested in dating you. A great tonic
for feeling undesirable.

9. Expand your community

If you are to meet Mr. or Ms. Right, it is a good idea to widen
your community. And, if you are growing and changing,
upgrading your community to match the new you is a great
idea as well.

Mass dating could be just the thing for expanding your
community. Approach dating as a way to meet new people
and form relationships, instead of a way to form THE relationship.
Many great friendships, business leads and dating a friend of a
friend have come out of mass dating.

10. Have fun

Dating is an adult playground. When you date, you go
to nice places, listen to music, dance, go to plays, dinner,
movies, etc. You engage in activities that most of us do not
make much time for in our busy lives.

If you are feeling a lack of fun in your life, go out and start
dating and playing. It will make your life satisfaction quotient
go up, and in turn, will make you very attractive to Mr. or Ms.
Right.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

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This article was originally published by Coach Rinatta Paries in
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